I wasn’t being nosy. I didn’t even ask. In fact, it started with a casual conversation about our dogs, and somehow we got all the way around to his admission, “Well, I used tohave a family.”
In the course of seven brief minutes, in the hospital corridor, this complete stranger unveiled pieces of his story. “I was married once…you know, my son…but she kept the dog…don’t see them much…life was better then—when I had a family.”
My heart sunk a little, distracted from the surface of our conversation by the sadness in his eyes. Moments later, we parted and I’ll likely never see him again. But my heart was bruised with sympathy. What a loss! What loneliness; what a painful realization: “I used to have a family.”
The next day, I called my mom during my morning walk. Her precious voice, the assurance that I have a family who deeply loves me, filled me with joy as bright as that early morning sun peeking over the trees.
“You know, your dad and I had the strangest conversation the other day,” she told me. “Now that we have grandkids and all, it’s strange to wonder what life would have been like if we hadn’t hung in there through the first tough years of our marriage. We wouldn’t have you! We wouldn’t have your youngest sister. I can’t even imagine life with out each of our grandchildren!It’s startling to consider that if we had given up on us—we would have given up everything else!The entire course of our life would be so different. We would never had experienced the joy of each of our children and their children! So many fewer friendships, hugs, tears and promises.”
One of the most common reasons given for broken marriages is, “We just weren’t compatible anymore. We had irreconcilable differences.” Incompatibility—there is a Biblical App[lication] for that.
Ephesians 5 is often quoted over Christian marriages. You can almost see a finger wagging in your face, “The Bible says submit to your husband!” or, “The Bible tells you to love your wife!” Both statements are true, but just one verse before those instructions is another command we rush over on our way to our favorite ones.
“Submitting yourselves one to another in the fear of God.” (Ephesians 5:21)
The Greek word translated “one to another” isallelon. It means, “reciprocally, mutually”. Those words are eerily similar to the English word, “compatible”, which according to thesauraus.com means, “like-minded, together, sympathetic, on the same wavelength, cooperative, congruent”.
Compatibility isn’t something that just happens. The phrase, “submit yourselves to one another”, can aptly be paraphrased, “subordinate, or arrange yourselves mutually beneath the other”. In essence, “make yourselves like-minded, together, cooperative, congruent, reciprocal”. It is not acceptable to simplybeincompatible, anymore than it is okay to simplybecruel. Scripture indicates we are to make ourselves compatible.
The impossibility of this command weighs heavy on spouses that have struggled, with blood, sweat and tears, and still find themselves hopelessly at odds. But light dawns with the next two verses, the ones that usually sound ugly, harsh and demeaning:
“Wives submit yourselves unto your own husbands, as unto the Lord. For the husband is the head of the wife, even as Christ is the head of the church: and he is the savior of the body. Therefore, as the church is subject to Christ, so let the wives be to their own husbands in everything. Husbands, love your wives, even as Christ loved the church and gave himself for it.” (Eph. 5:22-25)
In his book,The Power of Right Believing,Pastor Joseph Prince says, “…we need to teach the entire verse…The emphasis is on Jesus’ love for us. Everything we do today under the new covenant of grace springs from our love relationship with Jesus. His love needs to first work in us.”
Prince gives the example, “How would you like your husband to say to you, ‘God says that I should love you and that we should talk more, so let’s go out for dinner tonight.’? Then he sets a timer on his phone and says, ‘Alright, lady, your time begins now.’ Hey, no self-respecting woman would accept that, right? You want your husband to take you out for dinner not because he has to, but because hewantsto.
“That’s why the Word of God doesn’t simply exhort husbands to love their wives and then stop there. It goes on to teach husbands just how to go about doing so—the power to love comes when husbands first experience how Jesus loved them and gave Himself for them.”
The instruction in Ephesians 5:21, “To submit yourselves one to another”, is a command. It’s a non-negotiable. Rather than a shackle for women, is a lock on the door to an easy escape from one’s marriage vows. However, God never leaves us in a position to “buck up” or “grit our teeth and bear it”. The Bible walks us right into the truth that Christ goes before us. “We love because He first loved us”. (1 John 4:19)
The answer to our irreconcilable differences is the irrefutable truth that Christ loved us and gave Himself up for us. A convinced, firm, heart-grip on the knowledge that Jesus loved us enough to die for us even when we were still sinners (and still sin), even when our abject rebellion was decisively incompatible with His holiness—that knowledge, shods our feet in the Gospel of Peace.It enables us to walk mutually, sympathetically, submissively, cooperatively and congruently. His unshakable love for us—husbands and wives, sin-stained all—sheds a new light on our differences, and if we accept it, brings peace to our homes and longevity to our marriages.
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Lemme see if I understand this right. Expecting boys and girls to exist under the same social standards as one another, not treating breasts like they have magical powers, and altogether recognizing that the bodies of boys and girls are fundamentally equal… makes me a fucking pervert? Right.
If the first thing you think about when you see a 12 year old girl is sex, rather than say… a 12 yo girl who is being denied a fundamental right that her twin brother has… the problem is with you, not me.
Though I completely grasp why the pursuit of social equality is anathema to Feminists and why this in particular would rile you so.
Pro-active steps to actually demystify the female body completely fucks with the victim narrative that feminists depend on so heavily.
Wait, what??? Going topless is not a fundamental right… Sometimes egalitarians fight for the WEIRDEST things.
DOnt shop at urban outfitters
they literally sold a blood-stained-looking sweatshirt with the name of a college that there was a school shooting at
they sold prescription-drug related accessories trying to make it cute
they sold a board game entitled “gettopoly” i should not have to explain why this is bad
they sold a super cissexist card with the T slur on it
they literally sold this shirt
PLEASE STOP SHOPPING AT URBAN OUTFITTERS
Even I agree that most of these are over the line and in poor taste. I think the coffee one is probably fine, and the Ghetto one is too small for me to judge. I don’t care about “cissexism” SJW BS, but that card is just obscene and inappropriate on any level.
So I’m going to concur with the OP’s general conclusion.
Stupid pissy bitch please
Which agencies monitors what you do with your uterus the way the ATF does with guns? What are the fines and penalties?
What are the federal cunt equivalents of the following:
-National Firearms Act (1934)
>imposes a statutory excise tax on the manufacture and transfer of certain firearms
>mandates the registration of those firearms through the NFA registry
-Federal Firearms Act of 1938
>imposed a federal license requirement on gun manufacturers, importers, and persons in the business of selling firearms
>law required FFL’s to maintain customer records, and made illegal the transfer of firearms to certain classes of persons, such as convicted felons
-Omnibus Crime Control and Safe Streets Act of 1968
>set up the LEAA
>prohibited interstate trade in handguns
>increased the minimum age to 21 for buying handguns
-Gun Control Act of 1968 (led to a lot of abuse by the ATF)
>regulates interstate commerce in firearms by prohibiting interstate firearms transfers except among licensed manufacturers, dealers and importers
>set up points based import restrictions
>mandated serial numbers on firearms
-Firearm Owners Protection Act (1986)
>addressed issues of the GCA 1968
>put ban on machine guns through last minute amendment
>lengthy and costly process to to acquire machine guns though fees and skyrocketing machine gun prices
-Undetectable Firearms Act (1988)
>illegal to manufacture, import, sell, ship, deliver, possess, transfer, or receive any firearm that is not as detectable by walk-through metal detection as a security exemplar containing 3.7 oz of steel, or any firearm with major components that do not generate an accurate image before standard airport imaging technology
-Gun-Free School Zones Act (1990)
>prohibits any unauthorized individual from knowingly possessing a firearm at a place that the individual knows, or has reasonable cause to believe, is a school zone
>prohibited vehicle, open, and conceal carry in gun free school zones, including off duty officers
-Brady Handgun Violence Prevention Act (1993)
>instituted federal background checks on firearm purchasers in the United States (NICS) maintained by the FBI
-Federal Assault Weapons Ban (1994–2004) (expired)
>restricted the manufacture and transfer of certain newly manufactured semi-automatic firearms and magazines through cosmetic features
Semi-automatic rifles able to accept detachable magazines and two or more of the following:
Folding or telescoping stock
Flash suppressor, or threaded barrel designed to accommodate one
Grenade launcher mount
Semi-automatic pistols with detachable magazines and two or more of the following:
Magazine that attaches outside the pistol grip
Threaded barrel to attach barrel extender, flash suppressor, handgrip, or suppressor
Barrel shroud safety feature that prevents burns to the operator
Unloaded weight of 50 oz (1.4 kg) or more
A semi-automatic version of a fully automatic firearm.
Semi-automatic shotguns with two or more of the following:
Folding or telescoping stock
Fixed capacity of more than 5 rounds
And this is just some of what the federal laws have done.
But what about state laws? What equivalent laws are on the books regulating your vagina? City laws? County ordinances? What other hundreds of laws and restrictions and fees and fines and stipulations does your vagina have the way guns do? In what way does your vagina compare to guns in how its treated and vilified by the media and politicians and people in general?
Go have a fucking look and learn something.
>muh liberal values and thinking with muh vagina waa womyns rights waa patriarchy waa guns
Lol when has this ever led to something good.
>guns having less regulations than vaginas
Stupid cunts everywhere
I personally despise the “C” word, but good points.
Well fuckity fuck fuck. Can’t wait till you die in a hole mom with your fucked up opinions, no deserves to have to listen to you on a daily basis. I know not all Christians are like my mom, but about 90% of southern Texas are, and I can’t wait to leave.
So I was getting some freaking graham crackers when my mom said no. She was boycotting that company for advertising an “un-american” family; it was two dads and a daughter. She said it was disgusting and they deserve to go to hell.
The sad part is that she doesn’t take into consideration that maybe one of her children is not the “perfect” straight boy. But I wouldn’t expect that, her intelligence is little to nothing.
However, I do get the satisfaction that she’s been supporting the lgbt community for 16 years and doesn’t even realize it. :)
Has she been supporting the lgbt community for raising, feeding, clothing and housing you for 16 years? Then you have the audacity to say you can’t wait until your own mother dies in a hole?
I have nothing else to add.
These are the brats that laugh at their parents for supporting a rebellious child, but then cry big ol’ alligator tears if their parents kick them out past emancipation age. What a turd.
Portuguese designer Susana Soares has developed a device for detecting cancer and other serious diseases using trained bees. The bees are placed in a glass chamber into which the patient exhales; the bees fly into a smaller secondary chamber if they detect cancer.
Scientists have found that honey bees - Apis mellifera - have an extraordinary sense of smell that is more acute than that of a sniffer dog and can detect airborne molecules in the parts-per-trillion range.
Bees can be trained to detect specific chemical odours, including the biomarkers associated with diseases such as tuberculosis, lung, skin and pancreatic cancer.
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This is a really weird and really useful thing.